Children (part 1)


Most of us have children: Our children, our flesh and blood, our pride and joy and so on.
It is something special to have children, to see them growing and enjoying the first 
15 / 20 years of their life. Yes it is great to see your children growing up, to help them 
and to be there for them, BUT! BUT… what has been going on in the last 50 years? 
We have been so busy with ourselves that we forgot our children! Yes, doesn't that 
sound familiar to you?

After we decided to have a child, a newborn arrives. Before that, we both had a job, 
a house, a car and possibly, we first wanted to do some travelling around the world. 
Then we decide to have children. The newborn is there and the first weeks we enjoy 
our first child. Proudly we show our firstborn to everyone. After some weeks, we have 
to get back to work. The child goes to childcare and the father and mother are 
working the whole day. After work, one of them picks up the child, plays a while with 
him and then takes him to bed. The parents are always working to make money, 
because they believe money is more important than being there for their child! 
The first years go quickly and the child is growing fast too… only one little thing. 
Little?  Who are my real parents? I see people come and go the whole day and 
only in the evening the same people pick me up and I go to a completely other home! 
To whom do I have to listen and who will be there when I have questions? Years are 
fading away and while the child is getting bigger, the problems are also growing. 
At school, there are always others telling me what to do and only at night these same 
people pick me up and guess what, they are supposed to be my parents! I want to talk 
to them but they are tired and don't have time to listen to me. Where can I go with 
my problems? Now the child is a teenager, at school he is difficult to handle, at night, 
in the place they call "home", they do not understand him! Where can he go? The child 
gets his solutions more or less in the street, from other children who have the same problem. 
They are living a street life, where they survive by fighting and later by killing each other. 
When the time comes he will have problems with our system, standing before a judge. 
Guess what, the parents will tell the judge that they did everything for this child and that
they bought the most expensive toys for him.

What went wrong was simple: The child has been educated by a lot of different people 
and later by kids in the street. There was no home! There was no parent when the first 
small "world problems" came. Nobody was there, only a childcare, a teacher, and later 
the kids in the street! The child was connected to them.

In this matrix of life many people were not there for their children. Later on, they cried
because their child had become a criminal or did not care for his parents when they 
became old and lonely! It is not strange at all that the world of today has so many 
problems. We only live our own life dominated by power, wealth, money and matter. 
No, it is not strange we now get children who are spending hours in front of a 
computer believing that that is the real life. They see all kinds of things on their screen, 
see wars, play games, and kill hundreds of people and think, "that's real life". 
Then we seem surprised when that child goes to a school and shoots several other 
students! Why should that be strange? That is the real world for that child, if you can't 
handle something eliminate it like in a game!! Their mind is like that program "kill to 
survive" and there is no parent to tell them that that is not real life but only a game. 
These children are mostly the products of parents who never had the time to listen 
and talk to them. Parents who were never at home and tried to solve what went wrong 
during the whole day in a few hours!

The other extremity is that parents are so naïve and so over-protecting sometimes, 
they think they have to live their child's childhood. Some parents believe they have to 
solve all their child's problems.

People wake up; your children are a product of yourselves. It is you who produced these 
kinds of children; it is you who placed them in third or fourth place in your life (first money, 
second matter). Don't think "I didn't do this, not me", look now through other glasses and 
see who you really are!

Please start getting a better world, for we need children who are learning from their 
parents, parents who they can talk to and, if needed, are there for them. Parents who 
will tell them that games on a computer are not real and the films in the theatres only 
fiction and a manipulation of the system we live in. Parents who regularly give their 
children a big hug and who show their children what can go wrong if he chooses this 
or that path. No, in the last years, there are not so many real parents in this world: 
Parents who care and are there for their children. That is what we need to get a better 
world. We need strong parents believing in a good world and in the power of a real life. 
Parents, who can listen and show the children that there is also another way to go further 
in life; a life full of surprises and full of energy, where you can do things you can't even 
imagine. We need these children to get out of this big hole, that wrong turn in this world
right now. There are children and parents who are going the right way, these are the 
frontiers in exploring and getting this world on the right path. Be one of them. 
Do not try it, but do it! Moreover, believe in that world: It is there in front of you, take it, 
it is free. Do it! Do it now!

(BR061017)